I am a huge fan of lingo that originated in the Ballrooms, at gay clubs, and among gay people. I think that it is festive and clever. I love it sooo much. However, with that being stated, I am kind of concerned.
In our society, we often look at misogyny and racism with the heteronormative narrative that dismisses people who do not fit it. I am speaking about gays, lesbians, bisexuals, asexuals, transgenders, agenders, transmen, transwomen, transfeminine, transmasculine, butches, studs, femmes, fems, queers, sgl, etc etc etc. Because of this, many traits and behaviors that go on in the “gay” community often are misinterpreted or dismissed.
A behavior that I noticed is the use of phrases by openly gay men to describe women. Particularly straight gender conforming black females. These are the terms that I have heard used to represent black females:
Cis (YES I’VE USED THIS AND WOMEN WERE NOT HAPPY)
I am a black person who has experience black male privilege for the last 26 years of their life. I personally feel that black women deserve the up most respect. [Not saying I am perfect. All “men” are misogynists and we have to consciously work against it.]
I will not understand what it would be like to be described as with such monikers or even use that lingo among other people. I would love to hear what women and openly gay men have to say about this? This is a safe space. Bullying will not be allowed. I will give my thoughts afterwards.